My man is away in Europe for a week, on a business trip.

I am left back at home in Singapore (boohoo!) and have tons of time to mull over my life.

So, I started planning. And the more I planned, the more I thought and... eventually over our FaceTime calls, it got to the point where I we wanted to know exactly how much we would be pouring into our wedding.

I started researching for potential wedding venues and here's what I got thus far:

Equinox Restaurant @ Swissotel
I like how they have an adjoining room for solemnisation next to the ballroom. Also, I read from another blog that there is a choice to convert one of the courses to an appetiser (Peking duck) which would be served after the solemnisation ceremony.

I love Peking duck.

I know how people always say that you wouldn't get a chance to eat during your own wedding, but hey I DON'T CARE. I'm eating. If I have to go to the extent of asking the husband to go out into the reception area, and grab me a peking duck roll in his tux, I WILL DO IT.

Like I said, I love Peking duck.

(Shit. If he reads this, he is gonna use the veto card on this wedding venue. Crap.)

Gardens By The Bay
I have this strange feeling that IF I do have my wedding at Gardens By The Bay, I would shoot myself in the foot a couple months later when the bill arrives.

The rental rate for using the Flower Field Hall is 10k. And for the Waterview Room, it ranges from 4.2k (1/2 day usage on a non-event day) to 10k (full day usage on an event day).

Total madness. I'm not paying that amount of money for just some space.

Crowne Plaza Changi Airport
It's so earthy! I can't resist it!

But I know that I will, once again, shoot myself in the foot when I see the images after my wedding day. Low lighting = low resolution = bad images.

No thank you.

My Humble House
Awww. It feels very home-y, and that point is sufficient to capture my attention.

Their buffet menu has peking duck (hehe!) and it seems promising. However the menu has only Chinese cuisine, which strays from my ideal Chinese + Western cuisine.

Noble House @ Shenton Way
Pretty space but I can barely find any information online with regards to their menu. :(

1-Altitude
The name. Explains it all.

Just check out the view. I am a sucker for such views, for such windows... because it means sunlight, which results in gorgeous photos! The vain side of me is giving a mega huge thumbs up!

Beaulieu House @ Sembawang Park
To be honest, I am having second thoughts on this place as my potential wedding venue. I love that their menu has a mixture of Chinese and Western cuisine... but I saw the photo and the two words that popped into my head are "MOSQUITOES. YUCK!"

The Ballroom @ Faber Peak
This is one of my favourite! I love the scenic view!!

I would have chosen the Private Dining Room but I have a huge family, and he has a comparatively large one too so.. I'm just gonna play it safe and pick the bigger room first.

On the downside, I hate the menu. I find it disappointing and not up to my dream.

Royal Plaza on Scotts
OMG, I LOVE THIS PLACE.

I get my sunlight. The price is not exorbitant (cheaper than Faber Peak and they threw in a hotel room with breakfast for two!), and they also have a brilliant menu that is nearly perfect!!!! I feel so excited already.


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While I was doing all of this research... it finally struck me that planning a wedding is indeed tougher than it seems. I guess that is why people hire wedding planners.

Bringing the dream to life while making sure that it doesn't burn through both your wallets and your bank account, it is a major tough thing to do!

Everything might be over in a day but I don't want it to go to waste. Every memory counts. Every memory is invaluable. Just like how over dinner today, my family was reminiscing over how my brother-in-law knocked on my house door on the day of his wedding to my sister, and he said "Hello? Is there anyone at home?".

How can there not be anyone at home on that day?!?!?!?! My sister heard it from her room and gave a 'Wtf did he just say?' face, and everyone in the living room burst into laughter.

These are the memories that I want, that I look forward to having. I have zero interest in gate-crashing ceremonies because I think it is a waste of time, energy-exhausting and humiliating. That shouldn't be how things are on a wedding day, no matter what the rationale behind it is.

I think the #1 hope that I have for my wedding day is... he remembers to zip the flyer on his pants before he leaves his house.

He has forgotten on several occasions and I have to remind him to check it before he leaves the house for work. A busy man who is too preoccupied with work-thoughts on his mind. #socute #sohardworking #whyifellforhim #howhestillhasmyheart

Hotel Mom and Dad

I can't sleep.

It's not any zombie or ghost film this time. But rather a reality TV series set in UK. The title of the show is "Hotel Mom and Dad".

A brief summary of this show:

The production crew follows young couples who have been pampered fortunate enough to live in a good house with loving family members who tend to their every need — from cooking to cleaning and shopping. Despite their good fortune, the young couples have expressed their interest in moving out so as to establish their own independence and to satiate their desire for freedom.

The show features 2 new couples every episode, and the couples are given a sum of money that allows them to rent a house of their choice for a week, pay for their daily needs (food, transport, entertainment) and the bills. The only clause is that everything spent — even their individual night out(s) with their friends — has to be kept within the budget.

At the end of the episode, the couple decides whether to continue staying outside or to move back with "Hotel Mom and Dad".

Ok now that the explanation is done, it is time for me to vomit my thoughts.

This show hit me HARD.

I spoke before on my fears of moving out of my house and having to deal with owning a home of my own. I had gists of how it feels like to own a home, like when H's parents go abroad and I am left alone with him for a few days or even a week at times. He goes to work and I make the bed, I put the laundry to wash, I boil water, I water the plants, I pack the house...

If it isn't explicit enough, I shall make it explicit: I was like a housewife and it most definitely felt that way.

Oh and it doesn't stop right there. You know what is the most pain in the ass part about it all? It isn't the cleaning or cooking or washing. It is deciding what to cook for the entire week.


You got to know what you want to cook for that whole week so that when you go grocery shopping, you can grab everything you need. I gave up with the whole "I'll decide when I am at the supermarket" idea because I am usually overwhelmed with choices and forget about all the recipes in my head.

But honestly, the best part of having a home with the one you love the most is when he comes back home.

Once he sends the text "I'm otw home", I stop slouching on the couch and get to work. You know, so that I don't look like a lazy disastrous housewife. LOL


I get to work cooking and preparing so that when he gets back, there is a hot meal waiting and a clean wife smelling of soap and shampoo instead of fish and cooking oil. Well actually, the soap and shampoo part is rare. It is still a challenge to manage my time well enough to squeeze in time for a quick shower and have the food still warm.

I am thankful that he has always been appreciative of the cooking and cleaning thus far, and I honestly hope that the expression of appreciation will continue on for the rest of our lives. It makes doing all of that worth it and less of a chore. I guess, it is a woman thing to harp over all of these nitty gritty cleaning/caring issues huh?

Well another week of being a housewife is coming up soon. I'm kinda excited because I have a menu planned out this time and it is filled with his favourites! I'm either gonna burn his dinner or be the next Masterchef Asia.

Either way, I know that he is gonna say that the food is very nice and he is gonna find his pants tight.

The classic white lace

While clearing out pictures on my phone, I found an old screenshot of a wedding dress that I dreamt of having.


I love the details of the lace, and its demure vibe. But what I love most is that the bottom of the dress isn't poofy!! I've heard so many complaints of brides having aching body parts due to the weight of their wedding dress which they have to wear ALL DAY.

I can survive without the poofy wedding dress. Besides, I'm not that keen on having a big bottom on my grand day.

Wedding high tea buffet

I was showering the other day and I came up with this really splendid idea:

How cool would it be... to have a high tea buffet for my wedding?!!!

It is such an awesome idea because I will get the sunlight that I need for beautiful photos; it will be an international high tea buffet and so the assortment of food available will fit everybody's tastebud! Yay!

Besides, the husband likes high tea. #allthereasonIneed

He laughed at me initially when I shared the idea with him, but he came around to it gradually.

It is going to be so fun because everyone is forced to walk around and explore the food options available. The walking will encourage people to go to other tables and interact with others.

People will cut queue with the people they know (Hopefully no arguments occur because of that!)

I'm exploring my entertainment options.

He suggested having a live band playing classical music.


I politely threw the idea out of the window, and told him that I'll get a classical music CD or perhaps just turn on 92.4FM instead.

I guess he was really trying to go for the HIGH tea atmosphere. So atas...

I think there might be games. Maybe there will be... I'll think about it. It is so hard to come up with games. Can anybody do that for me? :P

I will definitely need a good MC.

And then... (here comes the spoiler)

I might change my mind again on all of these details! Ha! #wedding #bridezilla

Cushion or princess cut?

There was a period of time when I was fixated on knowing the type of ring that I wanted to get when I was proposed to.

I remember researching on the different types of cut available for the "grand" stone on the ring, the kind of mineral stones in the market, the sort of materials that could be used to make the band and most importantly... the design of the ring!

I flitted between blue mineral stone and white diamonds for the grand stone.

I contemplated between a cushion cut or a princess cut.

I couldn't make up my mind on whether white gold or platinum would make a better material for the band. But one thing is for sure, yellow gold is out. No offence to anyone, but I find that colour to be outdated.

I was so sure about not wanting yellow gold that when I made the ultimate decision to leave the design of the ring (including the grand stone and its cutting) up to H to decide, that was the only request that I had for him - my thought was so loud that I didn't even have to voice it out as he said it for me before I even could, "No yellow gold right?"!

Damn right you are hubby!

I was terrified of having to wear a horribly simple and original wedding band for the rest of my life. But then again, I was even more terrified that he wouldn't even think of tying me down because the idea of getting me the object of the proposal was too complicated and confusing!

Therefore I am gonna leave the heavy burden of getting me the perfect ring up to him. I'm sure that what ever ring he gets me in the end, it wouldn't be plain and boring. To the guy who remembered to instruct the ban mian stall auntie to scatter my egg so as to have it fully cooked, I have absolute faith in him!

Besides it adds to the mystery too. The type of ring he gets me would signify how much he knows me, and what he thinks of me! Right right right?

Yes I know I'm right, or at least that is how I console myself.

Floral wedding gown, aye or nay?

For my wedding dress: I'm currently thinking that I don't want the traditional plain white lacey dress like all other brides. (I might change my mind later | I am always changing my mind after)

I want.. a white floral-print wedding gown.


I like the subtle floral print at the ends of the gown... but I can't say the same for the cutting. I don't think it would flatter me. I haven't quite decided on the cutting of my dream gown but someday I will find it though.

Circle tables please!

Wedding time: I will be having a wedding lunch because I want the sun, I want the natural lighting so I'll look good in all the photos!! Yes, I am that vain. #dealwithit

With that, I will definitely need a wedding venue with ceiling-to-floor glass windows to let the sunlight in. I have yet to do my research on my possible wedding venues, but that can wait for another day.

For my wedding menu:


I have decided on serving western cuisine. However for my grandparents or other elderly, there will be a special "chinese cuisine" option available for them. For the western cuisine, one of the main course options would be steak and there will be a choice of steak doneness levels available, and the most important level of them all is "thoroughly well-done" (this is for you, dad!)

The tables will be round so as to allow easier communication with others sitting around the table.

My Wedding Blog

So here's the thing:

I call myself a blogger and I have my own webpage which I am supposed to use for professional reasons. I left my well-paying job to become a blogger, believing that it would all work out but the harsh truth is... it isn't quite working out.

I still love to write; however it sucks that I no longer have the guts to write about my experience and ideas. Blogging on that platform is no longer personal, and to be frank - I hate that about it.

I laid in bed last night, thinking... to me, what is important in my life right now?

And the answer is... Drum roll please *doom dee doom dee doom*

My new love life

Ok, I would hardly call it new since we have been together for about a year but.. it's still new. Right?

I mostly avoid talking about it and him because I don't wanna sound corny and appear braggy.. But I've now learnt that I can't as they are both such huge parts of my life!!!

My life is not entirely about him (thank god for that) but the matters that I do find important has aspects of him. For instance, our house.

Yup, I am about to step into the first biggest debt of my life. It doesn't help that we are going to apply for the 4-room BTO at Bidadari which costs as much as a 5-room BTO flat at any non-mature estate. The apartment at Bidadari is so expensive that we might even have to downgrade to a 3-room just so that we could have a home of our own at that prime location.

In case you are wondering, he we are so fixated on that location because it is closer to his work district and studies have shown that if your journey to work is more than 30 minutes, you will be less inclined to be motivated to go to work and will also face added stress when you think about work.

As to what I think about the area... it's nice. I enjoy the new amenities and technology that is invested into the new infrastructure, ie. pneumatic sewage system, bus interchange below the blocks, a home within a park.

But honestly these are just added benefits. I would actually prefer a bigger home to such amenities.

There is a nagging voice at the back of my head that keeps chanting my subconscious concerns... Where do we find space for the kids in the future? How can I have a separate study room from him then? How am I going to find space to fit all of his lego and liquor collection into our tiny home? How...?

I know we will figure out how somehow. I just really wish that our Singapore homes are bigger. #singaporeanrant

At the end of the day, I am not the one who has to wake up at 6.30am to get ready for work. I am also not the one who works till 7pm every night and can't wait to get home for some well-deserved rest. Thus I am ready to give in if it means a happier hubby going to work every morning and coming home to me every night.

With that said, it shows how much my life revolves around my other half and the matters involving him.

And with that comes.. the wedding. The very reason why this blog is born.

Now, before I have to fret my head over renovations, furnitures, electrical appliances and (what I currently fear most) babies.... I need to be done with the wedding first.

My ideation of how a wedding should be has adjusted slightly over the years but there are some things that remain the same.

As I laid beside him in bed last night and before he dozed off into snore-land, I nudged him and asked if his previous statement that I should/can only start preparing for the wedding after our second anniversary is still on the table. He mumbled his reply, "Yeah.. Why? Do you need more time than that?"

Before I could reply him back, he was already snoring and so he left me thinking about his question. I probably don't need more time but a girl can dream, and dreaming is what's been keeping me going and alive all these years.

So here this blog is to help document my dreams and my visions, and I know that it would come in handy one fine day to me or any girl who would like to borrow an idea or two from my box of clouds.